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If Everyone Knows So Much, Why Are They So Miserable?

I am amazed when I look around and listen to so many people as they tell me I should do this or that, or when they share their opinions about what is right or wrong. Everyone has some form of advice to give me about me and my life and the directions I should go and what I should do.

I constantly nod my head and listen carefully while at the same time remember that the advice is usually worth what I pay for it, nothing.

Everyone has a bit of advice to give you about anything and everything, all you have to do is listen. They will tell you what job to take, or not take. Where to invest your money, how to go about this or that.

I often find myself wondering why these people have so much wisdom and so much advice, yet they are still as miserable as ever. If they knew so much and were so bright, why don’t they live a happier more fulfilling life. Why do they complain about their kids, their jobs, their marriages, their lives.

At a very early age I noticed that people often preached one thing but had no idea. I consider myself very fortunate to be the type of person who constantly questioned and looked deeper into things than what was obviously right there to be seen.

I have always asked, and asked, and asked, and searched for answers that were much deeper than the surface.

As I grew I realized that the financial advice my parents and grandparents and other family members were giving me would do nothing more than allow me to live the same financial life that they have lived.

I also realized that I wanted more than that. The same was true about love, relationships, career, kids, happiness, and many other areas of my life.

Now don’t get me wrong, I love my family dearly and they are certainly not the same people they were then, but they still proceed to give me much of the same advice they did then. Obviously the advice didn’t work very well for them, so I decided I would find my own answers and follow those answers.

So I started looking for people who had what I wanted. People who were what I wanted to be. People who could teach me and show me what I needed to know and understand in order to have, do, and be exactly what I wanted to have, do, and be.

Slowly and surely those people started to show up in my life in the form of books and mentors. But I still wasn’t getting the results that I wanted. I wasn’t living the lives that these people were, and I certainly wasn’t any happier than I was before I started searching.

What I forgot in the whole equation was to figure out exactly what I wanted to have, do, and be. I needed to realize and understand what my own have’s, do’s, and be’s were if I was to ever realize any of them in my life.

I also realize now that many people have no clue who they are, what they have, or what they do let alone what they really want to have, do, and be.

We must all start by taking an honest look at who we are, what we have, and what we truly want to do.

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  1. The truth is, you can only sieve the bags of advise and take the one that makes meaning to you. It’s a human society and we are bound to interact with others in several ways. But the bottomline is that you shld know what is good for you!

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